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The 4 Best Ways To Get What You Really Want In Life (And The 3 Worst)

In the past 12 months I can honestly say I’ve achieved more than I did in the previous 12 years put together.

After the birth of my first daughter, Mollie, in 2006 I started my own business. I was going to rule the world.

Working when and where I wanted, around my family, I envisioned making amazing money and lunching with other, successful Supermums. I would build an empire that ran itself while I visited playbarns and Wacky Warehouses (OK, in hindsight, not exactly idyllic).

Except that’s not how it happens at all, is it?

10 years on I was frustrated as hell. I’d left a successful career to embark on that exciting adventure, only to find that this self-employment lark was actually really hard work.

At least, it was if we were actually going to be able to pay the bills.

I had zero time to myself, was stretching myself thinly around those that matter most to me, struggling to get clients (and taking anyone who’d have me, frankly), being paid a pittance and still fielding sly remarks about my fees.

I felt resentful when I had to take time off to look after my girls (the very reason I was doing this) then guilty when I was working and not spending time with them and my husband, Karl.

I was constantly stressed, in huge amounts of debt, never had enough savings to pay my own tax bill at the end of the year, no matter how much I earned (where the hell does it all go?)…and I’m an accountant!

I genuinely BELIEVED something was going to happen to make things work out for us…eventually.

But Karl had even given me the nickname ‘Del Boy’, after a character from an old UK TV programme whose catchphrase was “This time next year Rodney, we’ll be millionaires…”

Because every year I’d say ” This is it, this is going to be my year. I can feel it in my bones.” But it never was.

But because I’d had so much experience in my own business – and helping others build theirs from scratch – I was being asked by my clients to help them grow their businesses.

And you know what? It turned out I was pretty good at helping them.

I’d done so much marketing training, been on so many business-building courses, read so many books over the years that I had far more knowledge on the subject than any of them ever would.

They listened intently to me, totally respected my advice (for a reason I never understood) – and they were really taking off!

I could help THEM – I just couldn’t get a grip on my own life or business!But in the past 12 months everything has changed.

I have already doubled my income on the previous year, I have multiple streams of income (I sometimes forget where they’re coming from)…

Using the programme I now deliver I have trained myself to eliminate stress and worry at the flick of a mind-switch and to build a winning self-image that means I live with faith and self-confidence (instead of doubt and fear).

I’m not telling you this to impress you – I just want to impress on you that if I can do it anyone can. Frankly, I’m amazed that I’m still working for myself and have finally – FINALLY – sussed out how to make it really work.

And I don’t think it had one jot to do with the tens of thousands of pounds I had spent on marketing training…

How To Create Facebook Ads, Google Ads, How To Speak From The Stage, Direct Marketing, Online Product Launches, Offline Product Launches, How To Create And Fill Online Courses…the list goes on.

What I actually needed to change was deep inside me – not the things I knew or didn’t know. The skills I had or didn’t have.

I only found this out when I found Bob Proctor – he’s one of the world’s leading experts on human potential and growth, and he’s now my own business mentor.

I joined his Thinking Into Results programme and then decided I wanted to work with him to mentor others to achieve the results they want in life. So that’s what I do.

I am a consultant with the Proctor Gallagher Institute and it has changed my life.

Don’t make the same mistakes I did for over 10 years. Here are the 4 best ways to actually get what you really want in life (and the 3 worst!):

Know What You Want

You’ll only ever achieve what you really want in life if you know what that is. And most people really don’t.

I don’t mean what you ‘think you can probably do, be or have’, I mean what you actually want. What do you really wish your life could look like?

Allow yourself to dream a little and write down how you’d be living, in detail, if there were no limits and no restrictions.

You’ve got to be serious about this – you need a goal that really stirs you deep down. A goal that, when you imagine having achieved it, gives you butterflies.

As Napoleon Hill says, you must have “a definite purpose backed by burning desire for its fulfilment”

A Plan That You Put Into Action

It doesn’t have to be perfect and you don’t need to know that it will work.

This is important.

You will waste so much time, energy and money on trying to determine whether something is worthwhile or not before you even start.

Don’t get bogged down in endless spreadsheets and ‘what if’ scenarios – if you have an idea, a basic plan, go for it.

Just start with something. You can tweak it as you go and when you see what works and what doesn’t work.

Maxwell Maltz said “A step in the wrong direction is better than staying on the spot all our life.

Once you’re moving forward you can correct your course as you go. Your automatic guidance system cannot guide you when you’re standing still.”

Selective Hearing

You MUST become immune to outside forces of negativity.

Well-meaning friends and family WILL kill your dream with negative thoughts, feelings and suggestions if you let them.

You must develop the faith in your own ability and the self-confidence to completely ignore what they say.

Of course, this is far, far easier if you have a step-by-step system to follow and a community of like-minded, uplifting, encouraging individuals who are all working towards their own big goals – which is what Thinking Into Results provides.

Other people have absolutely no idea what you’re capable of (and neither do you, incidentally) so smile politely and make the decision to ‘file’ what the ‘nay-sayers’ (or Muggles as I like to call them!) are saying.

You don’t need their opinions or suggestions so don’t ask for them. this is about your life, what you want and your potential.

Don’t even tell them what your plans are – there’s absolutely no need unless they have to be involved, logistically. Show them through your results instead.

Mix With like-Minded People

Ask any successful person what helped them succeed, and they’ll impress on you the importance of having a person, or persons, who believed in them.

It could be a friend, family member, neighbour, employer…nowadays it’s more likely to be a coach, mentor or mastermind group.

Having someone who is positive, encouraging and who is working towards their own big goal

Being able to talk to them, discuss ideas and let off steam with them, without fear of judgement or being told to “just go get a job” when things get tough, is huge.

If you don’t have friends or family who fall into this category, it is imperitive that you either form your own supportive network or join one.

And I don’t mean a networking group where everyone just wants to sell to you. I mean a group that will teach, nurture and support you through thick and thin.

For years to come.

The 3 Worst Ways To (Try To) Get What You Want In Life

Trying To Change Other People

Not gonna happen.

If you believe that your life would be better if you could just change ‘this’ about someone else, there’s a good chance the problem actually lies within you.

This is usually a serious case of negative self-image cropping up.

Think about what it is you want to change about the other person and then take a really good look at yourself.

Is it something about them that needs to change or is it something about you?

Our outside world is a reflection of what’s going on inside us – are you taking actions or saying things that cause others to react towards you in a negative way?

Is it a lack of your own self-confidence and faith that is keeping you in a situation you shouldn’t be in?

Is it something inside you that needs to change? Probably.

Carry out a detailed self-inventory of all the things you really like about yourself, and the things you’d change if you could.

Start to really take notice of when these things crop up and take action towards changing them.

Self-image (and improving it) plays a huge part in how you become the person you really want to become and how you change your results for the better – permanently.

Banking On Winning the Lottery

What are the odds of winning the lottery? Well, it depends which lottery but in the UK you’re talking roughly 1 in 8 million.

1 in 8 million.

And what are the odds of being able to earn the money you really want with other sources of income?

A hell of a lot better, I can tell you.

Especially as most people tell me they ‘don’t want millions – just a few hundred thousand would do me’.

And if they genuinely focused instead (I mean gave it everything they’ve got) , just for maybe 12 to 36 months on that goal themselves, you know there aren’t many peple in this world who really wouldn’t be able to achieve that.

But instead so many people spend money on a game of chance, wishing they could win instead of using the faculties we’ve ALL been given to actually make it happen for themselves.

Because a) they want a quick fix or b) they just don’t see how it would be possible to achive any other way.

That doesn’t mean it’s NOT possible – just that they’re not consciously aware of how to do it.

It’s a crying shame and it’s one that we’ve been conditioned towards.

Decide how much money you’d really, genuinely, need to live the lifestyle you really want to live.

You’ll be surprised how much less you need than you think.

Why not start to think of different ways you could make the money to achieve that goal in the next 3 years.

Multiple Sources of Income (what we call you MSIs) are crucial if you want to earn a serious amount of money in a relatively short period of time.

You’re no different to the people on this planet who have already done this – I don’t care who you are or where you’ve come from.

Create your own purpose and see what happens.

Hoping ‘Something’ Good Will Just Happen

Everything changes all the time. We live in an ocean of motion of energy and, according to the Law of Creation, if you’re not creating you must be disintegrating.

If you’re not growing you’re dying. So which are you doing? And are you happy about that?

“Most people tiptoe through life hoping to make it safely to death.” – Bob’s own mentor, Earl Nightingale said that and it is so true.

So many people live day-to-day hoping to get safely through till night time with nothing too stressful happening…then wake the next day to so the same again.

What exactly do you think is going to change?

The Law of Cause and Effect means you need to DO something to cause a change in your own life. Nothing ‘just happens’.

So what are you going to do?

The world is full of people who ‘let’ things happen to them and then complain about it.

They blame their parents, the government, their employer, their children…

This is your life. Yours. No-one is going to make it better for you, you have to do it yourself.

So start today. Commit to taking control of your future and making it the best it can be.

Our physical time on this planet is short. Make sure you’ve given everything when you leave.

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What is a worthy goal?

“Change is inevitable, but personal growth is a choice.”

You have a tremendous amount of creative potential – and the truth is, there is no-one alive who can even guess at what you, as an individual, are capable of achieving.

So, if this is the case, why do so few people actually achieve anything of any significance in life?

Why is it that only 2-4% of all the people who go through our educational system become successful in their chosen field?

Well, there are many reasons, but one of the most significant reasons is that the vast majority of people never even aim for success, because we have become so conditioned, by our upbringing and our surroundings, into believing we have to know HOW to achieve something before we even seriously consider it.

So most people never even get as far as making it their goal to be successful.

The Wright brothers didn’t know how they were going to make a plane fly when they first made it their goal in life. Edison tried over 10,000 times to invent a working lightbulb – he had no idea how he was going to do it until he made it his goal and started working towards it.

And yet, for most people, their dreams never even become a serious consideration because they don’t know how they’d do it.

Instead, they settle for mediocre goals – goals they think they can probably achieve rather than the things they really, desperately want to be, do or have in life, often because of fear of disappointment.

A true goal – a WORTHY goal must come from within. A true goal’s purpose is to cause you to grow – it causes you to draw from a part of you you didn’t even know existed.

Do you have a C-Type Goal?

In Thinking Into Results, we focus on 3 types of goal: A-, B- and C-Type goals.

An A-Type goal is something you already know how to achieve.

Maybe you ran the London Marathon last year and you’ve decided to make it your goal again for this year.

That’s not a worthy goal because it’s something you’ve already done once – you know you can do it and you know how. There is no personal growth needed to achieve an A-Type goal.

A B-Type goal is what most people progress to after an A-Type goal.

A B-Type goal is something you think you can probably achieve if a number of factors you’re expecting fall into place. Businesses set these kinds of goals all the time – a 10% increase in sales, a 5% increase in net profits…

They create a detailed, meticulous plan for how it will happen and call this their goal.

But the truth is there is no motivation – no inspiration – in A or B-Type goals. There’s no skin in the game. It’s a safe bet.

What’s the worst that will happen if these goals aren’t achieved? Usually nothing – ‘we’ll just try again next year’.

What do you really, really want?

But a C-Type goal is your ‘wants’. This is the thing or things you really, really want in life. If you could be, do or have absolutely anything, without restriction, what would that be?

And yes, it starts of as a fantasy. Every achievement of any note has started life as a fantasy and you won’t know how you’re going to do it when you first start out – that’s the point.

Because it’s the personal growth that takes place within you while you’re finding out how to achieve it that makes this a true goal.

It’s what makes this a goal worthy of you trading your time, energy and money for – trading your life for.

If you’re going to spend your days working towards something, make that ‘thing’ worthy of you.

Imagine what your life would look like, what each day would look like, in a life you’d designed. Visualise yourself living it. Imagine how you’ll feel once you’ve achieved it.

This is the first step to setting and achieving your own Worthy Goal.

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Why is having a big, worthy goal so important?

And why do most people never achieve the things they really want in life?

It’s in our DNA

Human beings are goal-orientated creatures by nature. We are, as far as we know, the highest form of creation and we are supposed to set goals.

We are supposed to look for ways to improve our own lives and those of the lives around us  because it plays a huge part in the evolution of our species.

Dissatisfaction with your life is a healthy, creative state of mind  therefore  we are DESIGNED to be discontent!

Creative discontent is at the very heart of motivation, and yet so many people settle for what they currently have (and frequently complain about it) rather than taking measures to improve things.

And these are usually the same people who, when you tell them about any potential goals/dreams you may be considering will tell you to ‘stop fantasising’.

They’ll ask you why you ‘can’t just be happy with what you’ve got and leave it at that’ because of jealousy, fear or their own guilt.

But the truth is, in order for any human being to live a fulfilled, creative life, goals are essential.

The Law of Creation And Disintegration

One of the most dynamic laws of the universe is the Law of Creation and Disintegration. Absolutely NOTHING will stay as it is, therefore  you’ re either improving the quality of your life or, by default, you’ re taking away from it in one way or another.

And so the choice is yours. It’s a decision only you can make and making no decision is to make a decision.

But the fact is, it’ s only when you become sufficiently dissatisfied with your life as it is now, that you will begin to think of ways to improve it — most importantly, you will decide on a goal.

Dissatisfaction has given us cars, planes, TV and the internet. It has taken us out of the cave and put us into skyscrapers.

It is only because Thomas Edison experienced a deep dissatisfaction with the candle that we’re not all reading by candle light today.

How would YOU like to live?

So start to think about how you’re living now. The things you do from the minute you wake up until you close your eyes at night.

Now think about how you’d LIKE it to be — how, with the infinite potential you possess (we all possess), that scenario might be improved upon.

Keep thinking about this — several times a day, every day — and you can be sure that dissatisfaction will set in, if it hasn’t already.

Someone once said “In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely loyal to daily acts of trivia.”

Isn’t that true? So many people fill their days with meaningless tasks that result in…nothing (or just more of the same), because they just don’t really give what they’re doing any serious thought.

Goal achievers are interesting people. They’re productive, happy people beacuse they aren’t bogged down with such trivia.

As a committed goal achiever you will likely accomplish more with your life in one year than most people do in a lifetime.

Which way would you rather live?

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Your Infinite Mind

Paradigms are responsible for how we think, feel and act on a day-to-day, hour-to-hour basis. They are the result of all the mind-programming we have ever received – both gentically, in the womb, and environmentally growing up.

The information we have received, the experiences and feelings we have had over the years have conditioned us to think a certain way, to behave a certain way and to believe certain ‘truths’.

This infomation (or paradigm) has enormous influence over everything we do. It controls how a person’s logic is structured. So what may seem logical to one person seems completely illogical to someone else.

As the current paradigm controls our thoughts, which in turn control our actions and then our results, if we have any chance at all of achieving better results than we currently are (in any area of life), it is necessary to first change the paradigm.

We have to break out of the invisiblebox that our current paradigm keeps us locked in – and most people will require the help of a coach or mentor to do this.

Our mental programming has taken place over such a long time that, for most of us, it will require persistence, courage and determination to change the thought patterns and habits that govern who we are and the results we are getting.

The Frustration Of Being Stuck

The frustration of being stuck at a particular point in life can be almost unbearable.

No matter how much more information you take on board – how much more you learn – in order to improve your circumstances (health, incoke, relationships – you choose) it just doesn’t seem to make the difference we hoped it would.

The problem is there is an enormous difference between what most people know and what they actually do with that information. In Lesson 2 of Thinking Into Results, we call this the Knowing / Doing Gap.

Although they know what they need to do to be successful, on the whole, most people are not taking the actions they know they need to take to get where they want to go in life.

The underlying reason for this is that their paradigm – the current conditioning in the subconscious part of their mind – is trying to keep then where they currently are. In the same way an aircraft’s auto-pilot is designed to work.

They may try to change their behaviour by doing things a different way or focusing on desperately trying to change their bad habits, but if they do not change their paradigm first, it will continue to pull them back to their original course.

Even though a person may have all the knowledge / information they need to achieve their goals, this is stored in a different part of the mind to the paradigm. The information is stored in the conscious – or ‘educated’ mind. The paradigm is stored in the subconscious or ‘doing’ mind.

As it is a person’s subconscious mind that controls their actions – and their habits – it is the subconscious mind that must be changed to allow any kind of permanent change in their results. The current paradigm is not allowing efficient use of the information stored in the conscious mind.

Taking on more and more information is of little use without first changing one’s behaviour at it’s primary cause – the paradigm.

In order to make this change, it is first necessary to identify all those non-productive habits that have been holding us back, and to begin to do exactly the opposite. We need to start to take the actions we know will drive us forward instead of keeping us where we are.

Understanding the paradigm, and why we do what we do, helps us to make these changes and take quantum leaps toward our goal.

Lesson 2 from Thinking Into Results is called ‘Th Knowing/Doing Gap’ and focuses on identifying exactly what your non-productive habits are and how to change your paradigm one habit at a time so your mind is working subconsciously 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to move you closer to where you want to be.

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